“It’s not who you are, it’s who you think you’re not.”
We all have our own obstacles to overcome on our journey to achieve our goals. Arguably, the biggest obstacle you are going to have to overcome is you. The idea of who you think you are, what you are capable of and what you are going to do. Our identity is the most powerful force that affects the way we make decisions.
“The only thing keeping you from getting what you want is the story you have about why you can’t have it.” – Tony Robbins
I’m too young, too old, too fat, too skinny, too smart, too dumb. People have a “too” for just about anything and it’s that kind of mentality that holds you back. It comes down to how we see ourselves and how we influence our subconscious mind.
What does that even mean? We tell ourselves we’ll try, rather than committing fully because we’re hesitant to go all in. What happens is at the first sign of challenge, adversity or obstacles, we fold and give up. What “try” really means is, I will do it until it becomes uncomfortable or uncertain, then I’ll give up and go back to what’s familiar and say, “It didn’t work, I tried.” What makes the most successful people so great is their relentlessness to go all in on what it is they want. They do not hesitate, they decide and it’s done.
Our emotions drive us, and one of the emotions that hold us back the most is fear. We are afraid of what could go wrong or how we may be embarrassed or how our lives can change. The unknown scares people so we never step out of our comfort zone. The reality is our subconscious mind is controlling all our decision making so we need to plant the seeds for the things we want in our subconscious and then continue to nurture that seed. Rarely do things change overnight, it’s a process that starts small and then is increased over time. Start small, practice, gain confidence then move on. Don’t take on the world overnight – start with you.
By: Bren Dubé @brendube
Based on Episode 2 of The Implicit Show