Motivation is somewhat of a controversial topic, depending on who you ask. Some people say motivation is everything; without it, you don’t have a life and if you don’t learn to take control of it and master it now then it’s game over.
Others say motivation is garbage, it’s a myth, it’s never there when you need it most.
In my research and personal experience, both statements can be true. Without motivation, seldom would we ever move or even make decisions, but if we only rely on motivation to get us to where we want to go, we are wasting our time.
So what is motivation anyways?
Simply put, it’s our reason or our “why” for doing whatever it is we need to do. Motivation comes from a pressure or tension that drives us to act. That drive comes from pain and pleasure, the two driving forces that drive all of your decisions in life. Everything we do is either to avoid pain, to attain pleasure, or some combination of the two.
Understanding motivation and how to use it is simply gaining clarity on the associations we’ve made to the stimulus of our lives, meaning what we link pain and pleasure to. Once we gain clarity on exactly what it is we want we can begin to change those associations.
So how do we get that kind of crystal clarity?
The answer? Questions.
They say “Ask and you shall receive” but often times we get caught up in asking disempowering questions that lead us to feel down about our lives. We can reverse this by asking empowering questions that will prompt us to think of ourselves and our lives in a different light.
“What matters most to me?”
“What are my core values?”
“What do I want out of life?”
“Why do I want these things? What will I get?”
“Is there another way? If so, how can I make is rewarding for myself and in alignment with serving others?”
“What really motivates me? Why do I do what I do?”
“What do I want my life to mean?”
These are a handful of questions you can ask yourself to gain a deeper understanding of where you are in life and how you are going to get to where you want to go.
By: Bren Dubé @brendube
Based on Episode 22 of The Implicit Show