We’ve all been there, you’re about to do something outside of your comfort zone. Your heart beats faster, your mind’s racing, you begin to sweat, you can’t make out what’s going on or what’s going to happen next.
I’ve dealt with this kind of nerves a lot in life, especially with dating and high school, when I was constantly in fear of failure, rejection, embarrassment and humiliation.
I just hid away, spending most my time either watching TV or playing video games, doing whatever I could to play small and not try anything outside my comfort zone.
That behavior stopped me from pursuing so many amazing opportunities and life experiences I could have had if I simply got over the fear, ditched the nerves and did it anyway.
Thankfully, I actually discovered how to overcome nervousness so that I could break free from the cage of my own design. Here are three things that you can use now to break free from feeling nervous.
1. LOVE IT. Yes, that’s right I’m telling you to learn to love the nerves. It was once discovered that the response your nervous system has to being nervous and being excited are the same. What this means is the same thing is happening in your body either way, but you can twist it with your mind. Instead of being nervous, get excited about it. Don’t call it nerves, call it excitement because that’s what it is, it’s all in your perception.
2. Find Your Flow. We once had a guest on the show who said this one line that would go on to change the way I see being nervous forever. He said…
“When you’re nervous, go into service.”
It’s so true. Often times when we are nervous our focus is on ourselves, how we’ll do and what other people will think of us. If we shift our focus from what’s going on with us to how we can serve others and provide as much value as possible, we will lose all sense of fear. Focus on taking action. You can’t be nervous if you’re in the zone so find that flow.
3. Immersion & Practice. The more time you spend in the environment of your craft and the more you practice, the more confidence you will gain and you will feel way less nervous and much more excited. Improve your skills and the fear will disappear. Remember, if you’ve only ever done it once, twice or never, odds of you feeling confident and courageous will be low.
Use this to take action now! You don’t have to be nervous or live in fear anymore, you know what it is you must do.
By: Bren Dubé @brendube
Based on Episode 38 of The Implicit Show