We all want to be happy, right? It seems to be the goal of all goals; the ultimate pursuit.
Or is it?
We live in a culture today that seriously lacks happiness. Depression and anxiety are at an all-time high and suicide now kills more people than wars and natural disasters put together.
These statistics are very alarming when you think about how we are better off today than any other time in history, yet we are still not happy.
I’ve dealt with my own struggles in happiness, I reached a point in my life where I was so depressed I would not leave the house. I didn’t know how I went wrong in life and ultimately, I was leaning towards suicide, until something snapped me out of it.
This is what I learned, there are 2 types of happiness.
1. The Pursuit of Happiness. This is the type that is most talked about in our culture, we are taught that if you want to be happy you need to go out and pursue that next thing: a job, a raise, a relationship or a toy. We learn that maybe, someday, we can be happy if only we had that missing piece in our lives. This kind of happiness never lasts because it’s always dependent on outside circumstances.
2. The Acceptance of Happiness. This type of happiness is achieved not through the pursuit, but the exact opposite, acceptance. Our culture today seriously lacks acceptance; we forget to be grateful for being the richest people in the world. We lose perspective of all the blessings we have in life and that’s why we are not happy. Happiness comes from letting go of expectations of how life is supposed to be and learning to be grateful for the way things are now.
Happiness really can be that simple. If all you want in life is to be happy, why do we make it so hard for ourselves? Let go of your expectations and be grateful for the life you have, and use that energy to pursue your dream life. Don’t just settle for one, you deserve to be happy. Use them both!
By: Bren Dubé @brendube
Based on Episode 39 of The Implicit Show