We all have some experience of pain or suffering at some point in our lives. Some people may still be holding onto a memory from years and years ago and it is now becoming part of their identity and how they Define themselves.
Often times these can be negative experiences which can create lasting fear, anxiety or phobias. Thankfully these are things that we can overcome by creating new empowering associations.
So what does it take to let go of these experiences?
- Demonize the habit or behavior that dwelling on the past creates. Get absolutely clear on why you must get over this situation. Make it so bad in your own mind that your brain works on doing whatever it can to move on.
- Create a vision in your mind of how amazing life would be if you can just let go and be free. Think of all the pleasure you would get by overcoming your fears and breaking bad habits.
- Scramble the memory and break your patterns. You can do this by reliving the memory in your mind but choosing to see it different. You can imagine humorous visuals and sounds or imagine things going differently. Be playful and silly, do whatever you need to so that you can never see things the same again. Just like scratching a record, scratch your memories, and they’ll never play the same.
The last thing I want to mention is that you can’t control the outside world and circumstances, but you can control how you react, how you think, feel and behave and that’s ultimate power. When you realize that you chose the meaning to any given situation, you are free.
The negative experiences you face can be exactly what you need in life to challenge you to grow and reach your next level. The problems you have are there so that we can grow and have more to give.
Learn more on episode 58 of The Implicit Show